My post last Sunday was about reaching out to your friends/family and holding space for others. Reading that some one reached out. A friend with whom I had not spoken in many years. We just saw each other’s posts on LinkedIn and Facebook and occasionally liked them. She said she wanted to speak. I offered a video call hoping she may want me to be present. She jumped at it and when she called all she did was cry. No words were spoken, no hi-hellos were exchanged. All she did was let her emotions flow. There was pain, there was sadness in those tears and all I could do then was hold the space for her to decide how she wanted to communicate with me. The communication, as I realised, didn’t need any words. Her tears were enough. And all of a sudden she was quiet. We were in that space for almost 5 minutes. I could just hear raindrops outside the window against which she was leaning. And then, I saw her smile. I smiled backed knowing that she probably spoke
A young individual in his late 20’s reached out early last year as he wanted a sounding board for something that had been on his mind for a longest time. After series of ugly break ups, he finally found a girl who he really wanted to settle down with. The girl, apparently, had her own share of ups and downs and therefore was leaving no stone unturned to ensure that their meaningful relationship stayed. The hiccup in this was the energies that they put in to make the relationship work. The boy had a hard time letting go of the past which sometimes made him inaccessible to the girl, emotionally. The girl in her quest to let the guy stay tried every trick that relationship experts across the globe had to throw her way, making her emotionally confused and struggling. What seemed like a beautiful relationship from outside, was actually an unauthentic association that thrived on struggles, uncertainty, lack of trust and communication, lack of self-love and respect for own